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PREFACE
INTRODUCTION
REPRODUCTION-1
REPRODUCTION-2
REPRODUCTION-3
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-1
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-2
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-3
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-4
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-1
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-2
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-3
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-4
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-15
CHASTITY-1
CHASTITY-2
CHASTITY-3
CONTINENCE
MARITAL EXCESSES-1
MARITAL EXCESSES-2
MARITAL EXCESSES-3
PREVENTION OF CONCEPTION:ITS EVILS AND DANGERS-1
PREVENTION OF CONCEPTION:ITS EVILS AND DANGERS-2
INFANTICIDE AND ABORTION
THE SOCIAL EVIL-1
THE SOCIAL EVIL-2
THE SOCIAL EVIL-3
SOLITARY VICE-1
SOLITARY VICE-2
RESULTS OF SECRET VICE-1
RESULTS OF SECRET VICE-2
EFFECTS IN FEMALES
CURATIVE TREATMENT OF THE EFFECTS OF SELF-ABUSE-1
CURATIVE TREATMENT OF THE EFFECTS OF SELF-ABUSE-2
CURATIVE TREATMENT OF THE EFFECTS OF SELF-ABUSE-3
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-1
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-2
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-3
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-4
A CHAPTER FOR GIRLS-1
A CHAPTER FOR GIRLS-2
A CHAPTER FOR GIRLS-3
INDEX

 

Mutual Adaptation.--Another question of very great importance is that 

of the mutual adaptation of the individuals. To this question we can 

devote but a very brief consideration, and that will be more of the 

nature of criticism than of a set of formal rules for governing 

matrimonial alliances. 

 

A writer of some note, whose work on this and kindred subjects has had 

quite an extensive circulation, advocates with great emphasis the 

theory that parties contemplating marriage should in all cases select 

for partners individuals as nearly like themselves as possible. Exact 

duplicates would, in his opinion, make the most perfect union 

attainable. To make his theory practicable, he is obliged to fall back 

upon phrenology; and directs that a man seeking a wife, or a woman 

seeking a husband, should obtain a phrenological chart of his head and 

then send it around until a counterpart is found. If the circle of one's 

acquaintance is so fortunate as to contain no one cursed with the same 

propensities or idiosyncrasies as himself, the newspapers are to be 

brought into requisition as a medium of advertising. 

 

If so strange a doctrine as this were advocated by an obscure individual 

in some secluded hamlet, or found only in the musty volumes of some 

forgotten author, it surely would be unworthy of notice; but coming 

as it does from a quite popular writer, and being coupled with a great 

amount of really valuable truth, it is sufficiently important to 

deserve refutation. A brief glance at the practical working of the 

theory will be a sufficient exposure of its falsity. 

 

According to this rule, a man or woman of large combativeness should 

select a partner equally inclined to antagonism; then we should 

have--what? the elements of a happy, contented, harmonious life? No; 

instead, either a speedy lawsuit for divorce, or a continual domestic 

broil, the nearest approach to a mundane purgatory possible. The 

selfish, close-fisted, miserly money-catcher must marry a woman 

equally sordid and stingy. Then together they could hoard up, for moths 

and rust to destroy, or for interested relatives to quarrel over, the 

pictorial greenback and the glittering dollar, each scrimping the other 

down to the finest point above starvation and freezing, and finally 

dying, to be forgotten as soon as dead by their fellow-men, and sent 

among the goats at the great assizes. A shiftless spendthrift must 

choose for a helpmeet (?) an equally slovenly, thriftless wife. A man 

with a crotchet should select a partner with the same morbid fancy. 

A man whose whole mental composition gravitates behind his ears, must 

find a mate with the same animal disposition. An individual whose mental 

organization is sadly unbalanced, is advised to seek for a wife a woman 

with the same deficiencies and abnormalities. 

 

Any one can see at a glance the domestic disasters which such a plan 

of proceeding would entail. Men and women of unbalanced temperaments 

would become more unbalanced. An individual of erroneous tendencies, 

instead of having the constant check of the example and admonitions 


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