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PREFACE
INTRODUCTION
REPRODUCTION-1
REPRODUCTION-2
REPRODUCTION-3
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-1
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-2
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-3
ANATOMY OF THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS-4
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-1
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-2
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-3
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-4
THE SEXUAL RELATIONS-15
CHASTITY-1
CHASTITY-2
CHASTITY-3
CONTINENCE
MARITAL EXCESSES-1
MARITAL EXCESSES-2
MARITAL EXCESSES-3
PREVENTION OF CONCEPTION:ITS EVILS AND DANGERS-1
PREVENTION OF CONCEPTION:ITS EVILS AND DANGERS-2
INFANTICIDE AND ABORTION
THE SOCIAL EVIL-1
THE SOCIAL EVIL-2
THE SOCIAL EVIL-3
SOLITARY VICE-1
SOLITARY VICE-2
RESULTS OF SECRET VICE-1
RESULTS OF SECRET VICE-2
EFFECTS IN FEMALES
CURATIVE TREATMENT OF THE EFFECTS OF SELF-ABUSE-1
CURATIVE TREATMENT OF THE EFFECTS OF SELF-ABUSE-2
CURATIVE TREATMENT OF THE EFFECTS OF SELF-ABUSE-3
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-1
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-2
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-3
A CHAPTER FOR BOYS-4
A CHAPTER FOR GIRLS-1
A CHAPTER FOR GIRLS-2
A CHAPTER FOR GIRLS-3
INDEX

averted if the parties themselves would endeavor to lessen the 

differences between them by mutual approximation. 

 

Courtship.--We cannot well avoid devoting a few paragraphs to a part 

of the subject so important as this, especially as it affords an 

opportunity for pointing out some evils too patent and too perilous 

to be ignored. 

 

Courting, in the sense in which we use the word, is distinctly an 

American custom. The social laws of other civilized countries are such 

as to preclude the possibility of the almost unrestrained association 

of the sexes in youth which we see in this country. We do not offer 

this fact as an argument in favor of foreign social customs, by any 

means, although in this one particular they often present great 

advantages, since in the majority of instances other evils as great 

or even greater are encouraged. We mention the fact simply for the 

purpose of bringing into bold relief the evils of the characteristic 

American looseness in this particular. 

 

A French matron would be horrified at the idea of a young man asking 

her daughter to accompany him alone on an evening ride, to a lecture, 

concert, or other place of amusement, and much more should he ask the 

privilege of sitting up all night in the parlor with the light turned 

down, after the rest of the family had retired. Among respectable people 

in France such liberties are not tolerated; and a young man who should 

propose such things would be dismissed from the house instantly, and 

would be regarded as unfit for association with virtuous people. If 

a young man calls upon a young lady for the purpose of making her 

acquaintance, he sees both her and her mother, or an aunt or older sister. 

He never sees her alone. If he invites her to ride, or to accompany 

him to an entertainment of any sort, he must always invite her lady 

friend also; she goes along at any rate. There is afforded no chance 

for solitary moonlight strolls or rides, nor any other of the similar 

opportunities made so common by American courting customs. We are no 

advocates of the formal modes of contracting matrimonial alliances 

common among many nations, and illustrations of which we find at all 

ages of the world. For example, among the ancient Assyrians it was a 

custom to sell wives to the highest bidder, at auction, the sums 

received for the handsomer one being given to the less favored ones 

as a dowry, to secure a husband for every woman. The same custom 

prevailed in Babylon in ancient times, and has been practiced in modern 

times in Russia. At St. Petersburg, not many years ago, an annual sale 

of wives was held on Whit Sunday, after the same plan followed by the 

Assyrians. 

 

Among the early Jews it seems to have been the custom for parents to 

select wives for their sons. In the case of Isaac, this important matter 

was intrusted to an old and experienced servant, who was undoubtedly 

considered much more competent to select a wife for the young man than 

he was himself. The same custom has been handed down even to the present 


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